THE BIG DARK: A Memoir of Survival, Silence, and Finally, a Voice

For over thirty years, she smiled through the pain. A devoted wife, a mother, a professional—and a prisoner of emotional, psychological, and covert domestic abuse. On the outside, she was the picture of resilience. Behind closed doors, she was slowly disappearing.

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In The Big Dark, Pam shatters the silence with a breathtakingly raw and unflinchingly honest account of a life entangled with a man who wore the mask of a charming hero—and hid the soul of a manipulative narcissist. From love bombing to gaslighting, from military moves to isolation, from silent screams to loaded threats, this is the anatomy of a trauma bond—and the story of a woman who broke it.

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Told with searing clarity, grace, and grit, The Big Dark is more than a memoir. It is a lifeline. A reckoning. A reclamation.

If you’ve ever questioned your reality, minimized your pain, or stayed silent to keep the peace—this book is for you.